Posted on March 22, 2010.
My Russian American dichotomy I was a young Russian girl and an American teenager. I had no choice in the first, but I tried very hard to be second. Now as a grown woman, I mostly deem a New Yorker. Although I never really considered myself an American, a New Yorker has more. New York has a special tolerance for Russians.
My immigrant story begins when I was five. I do not remember a feeling of escape our country or the idea that our life was difficult. As a child growing up in Kiev, I remember very little. I remember the photos here and there, most of the stories which were tattooed on the newspaper story of childhood.
I remember having my ears pierced when I was three. With studs of gold in my ears I went down to the ground beneath a glacier by excellence. I remember the dark wood paneling and the taste of vanilla. The memory of that vanilla has solidified the definition of perfection vanilla for me.
My grandmother, who came to America three years before us, which is used to send me clothes. My mother would then proceed to disguise myself dressed in the American style and ask me to cover navy wool plaid on our couch. To date, I have a portfolio of me as a mini Russian fashionista flared jeans, short skirts, and sweaters of the itchiest caliber.
However, there were occasional failures of style. A reel of film is proof of our afternoon walk in a city park in Russia. I, a period of three years with long hair on the swings, wearing as a complete outfit, American Popeye Underoos. My father has developed all of my pictures in our small bath and my mother to send them to my grandmother as evidence of wear.
My grandmother arranged the visa that got our family out of Russia. I remember very little of the immigration process. My mother packed the only life she had known in one or two suitcases and moved to a foreign country which has made no promises beyond hope. She was 25. I am now 34 years old with my own 6 years and can not imagine doing half face difficult task.
We came to America by way of Vienna first, then Rome. We have been pushed with other immigrants in a holding pattern proportions unglamorous. I do not recall one iota of our time together in Europe. Family stories circulating on the European purgatory are few and random. I was sick as usual, my mother wore a plastic bag with her wherever she went. My mother was astonished that so many Italian men knew her name, she did not know his name, Bella, has been synonymous with fine Italian.
I remember my grandmother coming to visit us in Italy, she could not wait two more months for us to get to America. When he was picked up at the airport, I remember seeing a strange woman who I knew had to be someone important shoving a doll against the wall of glass. I did not know if I should be happier with the doll or the woman. I do not remember being thrilled by.
Career in America seems distant, a shadow of a childhood where I did not really, but has not been completely sidelined. We lived in a two bedroom apartment in the street from the apartment of my grandmother identical in Queens. I look out my window at first floor and the window of my grandmother on the eighth floor, with binoculars, I saw her waving.
The whole neighborhood has some memorable moments for me. I remember learning to ride my bike there Huffy Brown. I remember playing on the monkey bars and a grown man came to hang upside down. He wore loose shorts and running without underwear.
Elementary school seems unnecessary in retrospect. My parents have always been disappointed in American education. In Russia, they told me they were learning from my sixth grade math in highschool. My parents.